Monday Morning Pep-Talk: How to Overcome Self- Sabotage
Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that sabotage your success? Are you ready to put your limiting behavior to rest in favor of a better outlook and greater fulfillment?
Listen to the audio download here: Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
The first step to the success you crave is being able to recognize the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success. Once you do, you can banish those beliefs in favor of more empowering ones.
Awareness of Self-Sabotaging Behaviors is Half the Battle
Look for these self-sabotaging tactics in your life, so you can replace them with more productive thoughts that support your success:
Settling for less than your best causes you to stop short of unleashing your fullest potential and living your brilliance. Sometimes we settle for less because we’re scared of encountering failure. Other times, we may settle simply because we lack awareness of our own strength.
* Test your strength constantly by going out of your comfort zone. Face your fears, because more often than not, your fear is the only obstacle between you and ultimate success.
2. Expecting too much from others.
It’s great to have a support system, but be careful not to make them your crutch. When you automatically expect help from others, or anticipate that others will bail you out of a tough situation, you’re expecting too much. Ultimately, only you are responsible for your success (or missteps).
* Even if your friends and family have helped you in the past, they may choose to let you fend for yourself this time around. Always be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions and clean up your own mess. Choose a more sensible path that takes into account that you may journey to your destination alone.
3. Feeling sorry for yourself.
If your current situation causes you to feel like something’s missing, change your circumstances. Instead of dwelling on what could have been and focusing on the unfortunate hand you’ve been dealt, seek to learn from every experience and focus on solutions, instead of problems.
* Your success is your responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for your results and allow unfortunate situations to steer you toward success, instead of deterring you from achieving your dreams. By maintaining this mindset, even your worst trial will be far better than remaining on the sidelines of life.
4. Not having a second plan.
If your initial plan gives less than desired results, your only chance at success is your ability to adapt. Everyone needs a Plan B – keep in mind it’s not the destination but the plan for how to get there that’s changing.You may feel like a pessimist by planning for an unfortunate outcome, but this planning is actually proactive. It shows your mind that you’re serious about reaching your desired destination no matter what. Coming up with another way to get what you want shows resilience and tenacity.
* Ensure your financial security, mental health, and well-being by always planning for the worst while hoping for the best.
If you often find yourself doing any of these self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder your chances of success, decide that today is going to be a new day. The important thing is that you recognize the thought patterns and behaviors that limit you and head in a new direction that supports your success.
Replace “stinking thinking” with a productive, solution-oriented focus that reminds you that you deserve the success you seek. When you do, your success is inevitable.
Believing in yourself is an endless destination. Believing you have failed is the end of the journey. - Unknown