I came across the same quote twice in the same week:
“Stop comparing your insides with someone else’s outside.”
I don’t remember where I came across it this week, but the earliest attribution I found is to Hugh MacLeod of Gaping Void.
This simple line is a gem. It’s something that everyone of us brave enough to take the journey toward fulfilling our purpose and passion need to digest.
Comparing ourselves and our journey to other people is leads to jealousy which is detriment to true prosperity. Comparing yourself to someone who is in a season of harvest while you are still sowing the seeds of your success will create doubt, insecurity, and fear. None of those emotions can help you. In fact, they chip away at the faith that fuels your action, and the more your faith diminishes – the easier it becomes to step away from your purpose and settle for mediocrity.
DO NOT SETTLE!
Instead of comparing yourself (that includes your journey, your progress, and your results), look for what you can learn. Explore their story for insights, questions, and truths that you can apply to your journey.
DO: Learn from their experience. DON’T: Yearn for their life.
Remember, you are not seeing all the inside stuff they had to go through (and probably grow through) to get to where they are now. There are no overnight successes – for anyone.
Case in point: One of the recent pop culture sensations is South Korean rapper Psy and his “Gangnam Style” video. It’s gotten over 325 million views and according to Socializer has made the Guinness World Record for as the most liked video in YouTube’s history. Psy is also the very first South Korean artist to top the charts on iTunes. The video first started going viral back in July, but guess how long he’s been an entertainer? 10 years. I heard him in a recent interview that it took him 10 years in South Korea to build a following and now he has to start all over in the United States. While he may seem like an overnight success to us – he’a been at this for 10 YEARS.
I repeat: there is no such thing as an overnight success.
Savor the small milestones, the small consistent steps that propel you forward. Embrace your journey and each learning opportunity that prepares you for the rewards of your effort. One of the most regretful experiences is to achieve success and then squander it because you are not prepared to accept and enjoy it.
I am unique with my own brilliance, purpose, and abilities, and my journey is unlike anyone else’s. When good things happen to those around me I am genuinely happy and look to learn from them, instead of comparing myself to them.
I intentionally choose to stay in my own lane. Regardless of how fast another lane may seem or how much smoother another path may look, I choose to go at the speed that works best for me, my values and priorities. No good thing can come out of comparing myself to others.
I am equipped to succeed on my path no matter how rough the ride gets at times. I have been created with everything I need to fulfill my purpose.
I measure my performance against my own potential, not by how well another person is performing. Comparison is a distraction from my passion and purpose, and sows seeds of jealousy. I choose to sow seeds of gratitude for my path, my purpose, and my life.
I refrain from comparing myself to others because I am whole and good the way I am and where I am. Today I choose to honor my strengths, embrace my journey and express genuine gratitude for my path and the learning and success designed for me.
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